Cruising the gay online community in Thailand. Guide to make more out of the internet.

ZombieBlondies link list with comments.

Somehow, I cannot build sub pages here and the list with it's comments will become too long to be placed in the side row. Temporary solution – put it in into a blog entry.

Not all of us are strictly Rice Queens. Bangkok, Pattaya, Chiang Mai, Phuket - a large community of expat gay residents and regular visitors. A very international community with a broad diversity of cultural backgrounds. You can meet them online at various places in the internet.
There are the well known places, where you can put up your profile, announce your likes and dislikes, your fetish, what you are looking for and what you are willing to give. Some profiles there are so detailed, that I know more about my future date, than I know about myself. You put your wish list in the search engine and contact the boys the machine had found. That kind of match making is boring, there is no space for surprise left. You will even know his man meat size, shape and cut grade before hand. No chance for a WOW effect, only when the sissy messed up inch and cm, but 50/50 can that be also a disappointment.
These 'traditional' online cruising places take the chilli out of the curry, the meal becomes fads, providing you with a calculated carb and protein ration. A culinary treat like in a state hospital.
Second, no obligations for a gay to sign up there. Many will not, for the reasons above , bad experiences in the past or because this way isn’t part of their lifestyle, he is shy, he is a troll, in the process of coming out, still in the closet , thinks ‘good’ gay boys don’t go there and he is a good boy and so on and so on. Maybe your future dates never thought about it to met other partners in the internet, are not net savvy enough, have a poor developed gaydar, but that all can change in the moment you start flirting with him.
Cruising only in special zones and areas limits opportunities. You should cruise all over the local web.
The intention and idea behind the link list is to scale and mapping how gay is the online neighbourhood. Be a guide and provide orientation. Build up a profiles of certain gay clusters, rate them, point out what you can expect there, in what mood the crowd swings to what music they step there, what are the advantages and disadvantages, suggest special strategies to strike successful there.



thaivisa.com/terrarium
A zoo for mature, old-fashioned queers, old gay white men. Thailand’s leading GWM portal, a massively multiplayer online role-playing game (MMORPG) in which participants can play different characters of gay stereotypes. Clerk, nurse, biker, "teacher", beach boy, SEO master, farmer, policeman, pilot, linguist, woman - your choice. Only the novice gamer talking about Thai wife from good family. The other closeted mullets respect the rule, do not talk bad about the alternative lifestyle. No homophobia, we are a brotherhood and bitching about woman the first step out of the closet.
If you don't have a photo of a sick soi dog, some furfag or yiffi image will do for the use as avatar. Keep your role simple and infantile, don't forget it is only a game. But once you are banned you can never come back. If you are going to impersonate a fem, please check with brother sbk before, if your ideas of the woman role go confirm with his concepts how a 'real woman' should be.

teakdoor.com
The other queer portal, youngsters. YGWB, young gay white boys. Skater boys and skater punks If you think slapstick is funny, go there. The members are banned trolls heros dissidents YGWB's from the real queer gay portal. In RL, these kind of people listen to loud music after 10:30 pm, have to borrow a tie from you when they show up monday morning in the office, one hour too late. Young people. If you are not sure about your own male gender identity, teakdoor is a good place that the western LGBT community in thailand has to offer. The Trick to blend with the rough crowd over there is a wisely chosen avatar. Go to Google. image, search for E/F/G or J カップ アイドル 巨乳I was informed that straight wapanese fapping to this, somekind the japanese translation of Shotacon for non queers. Select a random pic and use it as your avatar. You win. Now you will never ever get banned on this board, because you stay in stealth mode and are invisible for the other gay male boys, members and mods in the club behind the teakdoor.

thaigirl2004.blogspot.com
Andrew Hicks, a geriatric bloke, trolls lonely closeted illiterati with no sex life at all. They think a book, a manual, could help them to understand women. He makes profit out of our clueless brother. Good, let them spoil their money elsewhere before they ruin the good prices at our buyers market. Have a look at his blog to see how sissy queer the heteros are.
Btw.the writer himself has nothing to do with lady boys or LGBT or so, impersonate women - for Brits straight as a fag.

later more, work in progress

How To Avoid Questionable Characters While Dating Gay Guys In Thailand

How To Avoid Questionable Characters While Dating Gay Guys In Thailand

A Mostly Common Sense Approach

Meeting People

1. Stay out of the gogo bars.
This one should be pretty obvious. It's not impossible that you might meet a "real" boyfriend in a gogo bar, but it might as well be.

2. Stay out of Soi 4; oh heck, stay away from Silom/Suriwong/Patpong entirely.
Once again, why screw up your odds? Yes, there are some nice/real people going to Silom and so forth, including of course you, my gentle reader- but really....

3. Stay out of gay bars in general.
Excluding present company, I'm afraid that simply being in a gay bar in Thailand is unusual and rare for many real gay guys- they don't have the time or the money, or they want to avoid stigma.

4. Do not use Internet chat rooms or personals sites.
There are far too many butterflies, MBs, "students," "kept" types, and crazies on these sites to make them good places for finding a "real" candidate.

5. Do not consider people you meet in saunas or parks serious candidates.
Another obvious one. People don't go to saunas and parks looking for serious connections with others.

6. Do not consider students serious candidates.
Even though they're cute, even though they're young, even though they're horny and they love you- they're just not worth the trouble. No money, uncertain future, and difficult to track.

7. Do not consider the unemployed serious candidates.
Another obvious one. Anyone who is unemployed in Thailand needs a good explanation of how they manage to stay alive (or at least how they did before you started taking care of them). Why add to the list of troubles for yourself?

8. DO keep your eyes open in public for those who looking at you with interest.
There are many very friendly and lovely gay guys all around who will readily indicate interest in you. Yes, even you, with your pot belly and grandfatherly look- that's what some of them like. Learn to notice and respond to these signals- look around when you're on the train, on the street (except Silom), in malls, at grocery stores.

9. DO chat and be friendly with attractive people who are obviously already working.
Some Thais are quite shy. If they are cute and seem gay, why not try to take the initiative? And if they're working somewhere that you're shopping or have business, you have a perfect excuse for the interaction- and you know they have a job.

10. DO ask your Thai friends to introduce you to nice people.
You *do* have Thai friends, right? Get them to help you out- but in this case, beware of your responsibility. You don't want your friend to lose face if you turn out to be a jerk.

11. DO make Thai friends.
This is sort of a prerequisite to number 10. Not all gays that you contact will be interested in you that way- and you can only have one boyfriend, anyway. Keep some of the rest as friends.

12. DO go to gay-attractive events such as film events, art exhibitions, and the performing arts.
Another place to find like-minded people with enough money and leisure for taste.

13. DO try to meet Thai university teachers/workers (not students).
This solves the education/job/intelligence side of the equation from the start.

14. DO consider Thai-Chinese partners if you can.
While not to everyone's taste, and bringing along with them certain stereotypical weaknesses, all signs point to their being among the best choice for stable relationships between foreigners and Thai nationals.

"Steven"

How Dodgy Is My Candidate?

Ok, here are the things I *know* to be true about him:

1. He is an art student at Silpakorn, and fairly good (has gotten pieces of his that I've seen into magazines and suchlike).
2. He speaks English suspiciously well (has an electronic dictionary).
3. He does not seem to have a lot of free cash (rides the bus, few extravagant spending habits that I've seen).
4. He's very bright- not only in English and art, but also in computers and a certain amount of philosophy.
5. He has a personal computer (compaq laptop).
6. He has been to Korea and dated at least one gay man there.
7. He has won several art awards (I've seen portfolio including award presentations).
8. He has worked for both a marketing agency and a pottery export company doing art for pay.
9. He has a number of pairs of shoes, some of which look fairly expensive.
10. He has a small number of tasteful clothes, but rather a variety of kinda provocative underwear.
11. In a bit of a financial bind recently, he sold his mobile phone to pay his rent and refused to take my 1-month offer of help.
12. He has obviously had quite a lot of experience with farangs- fair enough, I've been dating Thais, myself.
13. He freely admits to going to gay bars where farang often go; for example, DJ station- however he also goes to all-Thai gay bars with his friends.
14. I do all the paying for dates (he's a STUDENT, for gosh sakes), but he doesn't ask for other money and seems embarrassed quite often when I pay. He always makes sure to thank me for anything I've paid for.
15. When he's with me he seems more and more affectionate- not suddenly declaring his undying love, but measuring me just as I am measuring him.

Here are things he has TOLD me but for which I have no direct confirmation:
1. He is from Isaan and has a poor family.
2. He has an "aunt" married to a Korean man, which explains his trip to Korea and while he was there he earned the money for the computer by cleaning a restaurant for a few months
3. He's been at school funded partially by an uncle, partially by the Korean married aunt, partially by his brother, and partially by government funding (but overall has little spare money).
4. He's had a stingy Spanish boyfriend whom he is now considering breaking up with in my favor- claims the guy never even took him out to a movie or anything else but soi food.
5. He lives with a few other students in a typical student-block room near his university, but spends a lot of his time working and painting (I can confirm this anytime, 'cause he's not shy or paranoid about my visiting him in his home or at the studio- just haven't had time to go yet)

Now, the money and farang experience and the poverty all perhaps don't QUITE add up- but on the other hand, he's not apparently out to milk all farang for all he can get, either, and I think the feeling side of things is real; I'm convinced at the very least there's already a real friendship beginning to operate. Physically, things started slow but are getting hotter.

So, how sincere do you think this guy is? I'm trying to believe in him as much as I can, but it's in light of a recent relationship which went sour despite my ex-'s honest affection for me, because I found out about the other 3-4 guys bankrolling him (the ex). What do you recommend?

"Steven"

Sweet Memories - Bangkok Gay Pride 2006